Imagine me singing the title of this blog in my best Diana Ross voice. She was/is such a BOSS! Us gays LOVE us some Ms. Ross! These days it doesn’t matter if it’s in the morning, afternoon, or night, folks just want to be touched!
I MISS HUGS! I am such a touchy, feely kinda gal! Physical touch and contact are super important to me as it can express so much. Love. Endearment. Tenderness. Support. The list goes on and on.
Seems I’m not the only one missing physical contact of any sort these days. I can’t tell you the number of queries I’ve gotten from women, men, major publications such as Vogue, and Cosmopolitan asking about things such as masturbation, sex, etc, in this time of Covid-19. Needless to say, I was THRILLED to weigh in; all 120 pounds of me(LMFAO!)
So WHAT GIVES?!?!? Hopefully YOU to YOURSELF and OTHERS!
On masturbation…I don’t for the life of me know why folks, women in particular, are so embarrassed to broach this topic. I mean, guys touch themselves all the time! There’s even a lot of talk on people (not just guys) with addiction to masturbation and how to get around of over it. Ladies, that vagina, vulva, breasts, clitoris; guess what? IT BELONGS TO YOU! Get to know it. Touch it. Explore it. Smell it. For those of you who dare to go there; taste it. The thing is, it’s a great way to discover and connect, or in some instances, reconnect with YOU!
Great things about masturbation; if done correctly, it can feel REALLY good. You make your own rules. It’s as simple as using your hands or upping the ante so to speak and bringing in some supporting cast, whether that be vibrators, toys, etc. It’s all you! In addition to feeling great, relieving stress, relaxing muscles, feeling euphoric, getting a better nights sleep, and becoming more comfortable in the skin you’re in; NEWS FLASH: for all my ladies in menopause; masturbation is a GREAT way to help increase blood flow to the vagina. This will help combat vaginal dryness via getting those juices flowing “down there(pun intended).” The vagina is a fickle gal at best; if you don’t use it, you lose it! Remember, it’s both possible and “ok” to take yourself for “a ride.”
On sex in this time of Covid-19. It’s ok to love the one you’re with! As long as they aren’t afflicted with “the -Rona,” that is.
I’d be a lot more cautious about the casual “hook-up,” but if you are in a committed relationship and you both are “good,” GO FOR IT!
In these times of not being able to regularly get to the gym, sex has its own set of proven benefits.
- It’s great exercise! And we all know the benefits of exercise on our heart. Exercise also relieves stress, and helps ensure a better night’s sleep.
- It helps promote connectedness, and emotional well being. When we are happy, we are more pleasant to be around, more productive, etc. It’s a win-win for all involved; even those who aren’t(LOL!)
Masturbation. Sex. It’s all self-care! Love yourself and others. There is no magic number as to the amount of times you should be having sex per week; don’t get caught up in all of that. A healthy sex life is completely personal, will depend solely on you, and will be impacted by your circumstances; i.e., lifestyle, job, relationship status, living situation(do you live alone or with your parents/kids?), etc.
Hoping this blog post has both informed as well as entertained.
Until Next Time,
Wife, mother, Midwesterner, and award-winning OB/GYN, Dr. Angela is equal parts best girlfriend and bold professional, supporting women’s health with innovative approaches to care and heavy doses of humor. Dr. Angela has done more than launch a successful practice, she has defined herself as a voice for a new generation of womanhood, established her ASK DR. ANGELA brand committed to authenticity, and built a community rooted in trust, candor, and compassion.